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Breaking Generational Curses

Whatever you would have your child become, strive to exhibit in your own lives and conversation

-Lydia H. Sigourney

I don’t know if my parent or elders are aware of this but our world is changing. Now this is going to sound disrespectful but I don’t respect my elders. And this is going to sound more disrespectful but just because you’re older, doesn’t mean you’re wiser.

I still consider myself a new mom, so I’m learning what I like and dislike when it comes to how I raise my son. I do have a strong opinion on what habits my son takes from our family. I do have respect for most of my family, to a certain extent, but I can’t follow everything they try to force down my throat. Regardless of anyone’s opinion, I’m going to raise my son how I feel is best for the both of us. I want my son to have the best in life and I also want to show him the right tools he needs for success. In order for me to do that, I have to break generational curses set forth from my family.

When trying to break generational curses, understand that you will be met with opposition….major opposition but you have to stand firm no matter what.

The debate I’m dealing with right now is whether or not to cut my son’s hair. My family is so adamant for me to cut it just because it doesn’t look like what it’s supposed to look like…..whatever that means. They have never explained their point but they continue to shove the idea down my throat. I can see why they feel they way they do but they are also in a different financial situation than me. From a financial standpoint, trying to maintain haircuts is not something I can afford to do. They may not realize that I’m a single mother with no income. I think about my future quite a bit and I also consider finances when I no longer live in my families house. I don’t want to start getting my son ‘s cut if I can’t afford to keep maintain it.

It’s okay to take advice from people but at the end of the day, you’re still the parent. If you don’t agree with the parenting tips given to you, it’s okay totally fine not to follow it. I mainly want to teach my son to love himself because I know as he continues to grow up, he will deal with some hard stuff emotionally and I never want that negativity to come me.

Let me know what you think, I would love to hear your feedback.

There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so just be a real one

-Sue Atkins
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What now?! (12/26/18)



“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on you don’t have, you’ll never, ever have enough”

Oprah Winfrey


Hey everyone,

It’s been a very long time since I wrote for the blog and per usual some crazy shit has happened that caused me to write again. I’m not upset about the situation, all I want is peace. I don’t want to bring any unnecessary drama or ill feelings to 2019. Despite the situation, I will continue to strive for my goals and dreams.

“Positivity brings about a peace of mind which in turn relaxes your whole being”

Suman Arora

2018 has brought so many ups and downs as well as life lessons. I learned how strong I can be as a person and as a mother. Despite how bad I’m ending the year, I will prevail in 2019.

Here is a preview of some of my goals for 2019:

  • Single Parent Adventures
  • Complete my book “Broke with a baby”
  • Live fearlessly and unapologetically
  • Becoming a kick-ass parent

With all that being said, let’s get it in 2019

Good morning everyone,

I hope you all woke up with a purpose and a drive to accomplish your goals.

I was feeling inspired and I just wanted to write about a subject that I’ve dealt with my entire life.

As we develop as individuals, it can be tough when people you love have their opinions on everything. Whether it’s how you should dress, how you speak, how you should act, who you should hang around, and even how you think.

I see this so often as an adult, I can only imagine how tough it can be for a child. Everyone is raised differently and that shows through our parenting style. Sometimes I reflect back on how I was raised and how it has affected me as an adult. Just to give a brief example, I wish my mom would’ve taught me to appreciate my natural hair instead of forcing me to get it relaxed. Now that I am natural, I’m learning how to take better care of my hair, even if it’s not the easiest task.

I just want the relationship between my son and I to be as healthy as possible. I have a strong belief that you can raise a child to be a respectable, honest adult without having to constantly yell or belittle them.

Readers, if you have any thoughts on this manner, feel free to leave a comment.

Sidenote: This post has been sitting in my drafts for six days. I am so embarassed to even mention that. Even worse, I started this post in my notebook at the beginning of the month. Although I didn’t need to mention any of this information, I do try to put thought and effort into every post. Life just happens sometimes.

Thank you for listening

Kandice

 

 

 

 

Let’s talk about my son!

Hey everyone,

I just made a recent discovery. I was going through my blog and I realized that a majority of my posts were not about my child. Although I do enjoy writing inspirational and motivational posts, the whole purpose of this blog is supposed to be about the life of a single parent. I love my son and watching him grow up is truly a blessing. Let’s me give some more details about him.

My son’s name is Jeremiah. He is 2 years old and full of life. I am not in the best situation and I know that does have an effect on how he is growing up right now.  I am thankful that we have a place to live, even if it is with family. I am working to change our situation and, as my last post stated, I am trusting the process.

My son is developmentally behind on some of his learning achievements. I know my son is extremely smart and understands a lot for his age. His motor skills are freaking amazing but he lacks in the talking department. Does anyone have any suggestions to help my son communicate with me better? Any suggestions are welcome!

I am learning to stay strong in my decisions when it comes to my child. That can be difficult when you deal with opposing views. I don’t mind the way my parents raised me, I just wanna do things differently.

I hope everyone enjoyed reading this post. Feel free to leave comments if you want to.

 

Love,

Kandice

To my readers

Dear readers,

I am a single parent. My life is not easy. I struggle emotionally everyday. Not every parents situation is the same. If you child or children are fortunate enough to both parents active in their lives, I applaud you but I am also jealous. I never felt like I was ready to have a child. My son is almost a year now and I am still not fully ready for parenthood. I am not gonna lie, I had sex with one person for a couple of months when I got pregnant. I wasn’t smart about the situation because I was having unprotected sex, which could have been avoided, and that was very stupid. We weren’t in a relationship but I considered him a good time.

Although this is not the ideal situation for me and my son right now, I’ve learned a lot from this. I’ve had to develop a sense of survival. Just for information sake, my son’s dad is not active in his life. It seems like he doesn’t want to be involved and the way I see it, he is an adult who made the decision not to take care of his son.

I do experience a lot of emotions and at times I don’t understand how to deal with them. I have never been the type of person to express my feelings because I do have trust issues. It can be overwhelming and I often stress about everyday needs. I hate having to make ends meets, especially now that I am looking for employment. I am thankful for my friends and family who have stepped in to help me raise my son. Without them, my situation would be much worse then it is now.

By starting this blog, I have way to express myself and help develop my communication skills without feeling overly pressured. I hope this blog helps someone in the same situation. I want my readers to feel inspired, regardless of their situation, whether they are parents or not. I want to express positivity without being overly depressing. If there is anyone out there who feels like life can be hopeless at times, just know that your are more than capable of overcoming your problems. I haven’t accomplished all my dreams yet but now I have a reason to fight harder, push myself, and live life to the fullest. I want to encourage everyone out there to be the best version of you and always strive for your life’s desire. The journey isn’t easy but you never know what rewards await you at the finish line. Continue to be encouraged and know you can make it. Any downfall you experience is just a bigger reason to get back up and continue pushing forward.

YOU GOT THIS!!

I’ve always known I would reach this point but I never knew I could feel like this.

I have to start over….and I hate it every time. My perspective on everything I’ve know growing up is changing as I continue to grow as an adult. My mother was a single parent but my father still had a presence in my life. Now I am in a similar situation but my son’s father has no presence.

Continue reading I’m unemployed

Parenting is hard, I’m depressed..

“If you are ever unsure of the choices in life or scared of the future, look to me & I’ll help you” – God

I am sorry I haven’t posted a couple of days but I am not myself at the moment. This feeling is mostly coming from a situation at work. I was given a temporary position in an new department of my company and now this position is ending next week. I know some of you might be thinking “How is that depressing”. My old position was a piece of shit and I despised it with all soul. The thing is that this temporary position gave me peace of mind, if you can see it that way. I don’t mind a customer service position but sometimes your customers can push you over the edge. I enjoyed my time and it had plenty of benefits I liked.

Besides this situation at work, what sparked my depression was my thoughts on the future. I never wanted to be in a position where I worked long hours with no time for myself or my child. I often feel a corporate work environment is not for me. I do consider myself a free spirit who doesn’t want to be controlled by anyone. I’ve always wanted to work in an environment where I could do my own thing and still get paid. I don’t want to live a normal lifestyle and be like everyone else. I have always felt like I was set aside to be different and stand out. I have a lot of goals I would love to accomplish this year and I am determined to get them done.

One of my goals was actually to start a blog. I have always wanted to start one and once I got over my fear, this site was established. I want to gain more consistency and I know this will help out.

If anyone is willing, I would love for someone to comment on how you deal with depression or when you feel inadequate. What are some things you do to lift your spirits?

-Kandice

I’m addicted…….to coffee!!

“I can’t imagine a day without coffee. I can’t imagine.” – Howard Schultz

As a single parent, I’m constantly exhausted. I work a full-time job and somehow still have enough energy to take care of my son. I am always tired but seeing the smile on his face keeps me encouraged. I refuse to let anything slow me down or keep me from taking care of my son.

But I do have a confession. I can’t manage my day without coffee. I feel so sluggish if I don’t have it. I know you all might think it is cliche but it really helps my daily routine. I could LITERALLY drink it all day long.

I want to know the most important steps for your morning routine. Comment down below and tell me what gets you going in the morning!

Have an awesome day!!