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Trust the Process

To my readers,

Here I go again. I am THE WORST. I don’t know why I’m this way. I let life get the best of me and I neglect my blog once again. I keep telling myself to focus and post more but every time I get a boost of energy, I quickly plateau later. As I have mentioned in previous posts, I struggle with consistency. I looked at my stats and I’m shocked that my last post was about 3 months ago. Although I am shocked, I’m not surprised by my actions. Even with all that goes on in my life, I have to learn to push myself to be more consistent and trust the process.

“Trust is built with consistency.”

Lincoln Chafee

I know I want to be successful in the future an I understand that there is a process involved. I feel that in order to reach my goals, I must be willing to make sacrifices. I see so many success stories and I always wondered how that person got to that point. For example, I want this blog to be successful. I had wanted to start a blog for so long but I was always afraid of what my closest family and friends who think. It got to a point where I just said “Fuck it, I’m going to start my  blog!”. I wanted to be able to express my feelings when no one would listen. It’s hard being a loner because you constantly feel like no one listens or even pays any attention to you.

“When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.”

As I continue to grow personally, I must trust the process. I know the road will be rough and it will have many bumps along the way. I will do whatever it takes to remain encouraged and continue to follow my dreams.

I encourage all my readers to continue reach your goals and always stay encouraged.

Much love

-Kandice

It’s okay to go MIA

Dear readers,

I don’t want anyone to think I’ve forgotten about the blog. Life began to get overwhelming and I really needed extra time to compose myself.

When life does get overwhelming, I tend to fall into depressive slumps that aren’t good for me. Let’s just say handling my emotions is not my strong point.

As the title says, it’s okay to go MIA. You need that time to recharge your batteries and regain focus. I have this belief that taking care of mental health is just as Important as taking care of your physical health.

I’m the next post, hopefully this week, I want to focus more on mental health.

I know this is a short post. I really want to focus back on the blog and recommit myself to a constant post schedule.

I thank the world for my readers

-Kandice Franklin

P.S. if you have any suggestions for consistency and general focus, please feel free to comment

Stop being lazy (I’m talking to myself)

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”

George Herbert via success.com

Good morning readers!

Please forgive me. I keep telling myself that I want to be more consistent with my blog but I let laziness get in the way. My “life” situation continues to change and I find it difficult to adjust at times.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, outside of consistency, laziness is another concept I struggle with.  I get so caught with my personal issues, I forget to focus on things that are important to me (i.e this blog lol). I use YouTube, the internet, and television as distractions to redirect my attention away from my problems. Facing challenges are difficult and stress does build up in the process, but it is very important to maintain focus.

Let me explain how laziness affects me. At this moment, I am STILL unemployed. It has been almost 4 months since I lost my job. Although I now have all this free time, my situation has changed again. I have moved in my family and I help take care of my sick father. I want to be an asset to my family right now but my laziness (and unemployment) keep me from it.

Regardless of my current situation, I know I can prevail because I believe my situation does not determine my final destination. I believe that the most successful people have the darkest history and they never let their past dictate their future.

Have a great week and continue to follow your dreams!

Love,

Kandice

Chasing your dreams!

I just want to start off by saying that I plan to post a new blog once every week. I am learning to be more consistent and I figured why not start with the blog. Writing this blog has definitely given me a new sense of purpose.

I love the idea of chasing your dreams. It’s exciting but it also comes with a price. Personally, I am starting a path to become a millionaire. In my head, it sounds completely crazy and daring. I don’t consider myself to be the average person nor do I want to live the average lifestyle. It’s going to take a lot of hard work and dedication if I wanna make this happen.

Unfortunately, I have a horrible habit of laziness that can make this dream difficult to achieve. I am trying my absolute hardest to break this habit. I want my son to have better habits and a better understanding of life in general. Life can be difficult enough but how you overcome the obstacles is the important factor.

You also have to understand that everyone is not going to support you. This is the HARD lesson to learn. You have to learn to support and motivate yourself. Everyone is not going to be on your side and you need to be okay with that. If you want to be successful, haters come with the territory. A hater can be anybody, even those the closest to you. I’m tired of asking family and friends for help knowing they don’t want to help in the first place. It’s time for me to gain and maintain the lifestyle I want without the help from others.

I can no longer rely on help from others. My goals are not aligned with everyone else’s. I feel like I am set apart from the rest of the world and I have to start acting like it. I am confident in my abilities and I know I can accomplish my dreams!

The fear of Success

What am I afraid of? This is a question I often ask myself as I’m on my blogging journey. When I started this blog, I never really had a goal in mind. I just wanted to express my feelings in a way that’s comfortable for me. Sometime I feel like most of the world won’t care for my story but I also believe my story will impact someone’s life.

I woke up in the middle of the night and all I could think of was a song by Good Charlotte called “Life changes”. I’m reading through the lyrics and these words stuck out the most:

“You know that love changes

The pain, it rearranges

Best friends become strangers

Don’t you know that life changes 

So you get up and shake it off

Smile at everyone you meet

Put your best foot forward, chip on your shoulder

It’s like you can’t be beat

It’s like we can’t be beat”

I believe change is a vital part on the road to success and it’s nothing to be afraid of. If you aren’t willing to accept change in your life, how can you grown into the next picture of success? The crazy thing is, success is what I am afraid of. I don’t want success to change any values I have or that my son will develop. I’ve seen how success can negatively impact people but I have also seen the positive impact too. I’m just afraid success could change who I am as a person, so I am trying to find the best ways to be humble and happy in every situation. 

I was on the reader and I came across Ben Huberman’s article called “Three ways to take your website visitors behind the scenes”. After reading the article, I asked a question. I wanted to know how to show multiple sides of me without taking away from the main purpose of the blog. He gave me some helpful tips to help further develop my blog. I was actually pleasantly surprised when he replied to my comment. I definitely recommend checking out the discover section because you never know where your next great or inspiration will come from. Here is a link to the article if you wanna check it out.

Three ways to take your website visitors behind the scenes

Don’t be afraid to take a step toward your future because you don’t know what’s on the road ahead. That fear can stop you from achieving your greatest dreams. Just get out there and do it!

To my readers

Dear readers,

I am a single parent. My life is not easy. I struggle emotionally everyday. Not every parents situation is the same. If you child or children are fortunate enough to both parents active in their lives, I applaud you but I am also jealous. I never felt like I was ready to have a child. My son is almost a year now and I am still not fully ready for parenthood. I am not gonna lie, I had sex with one person for a couple of months when I got pregnant. I wasn’t smart about the situation because I was having unprotected sex, which could have been avoided, and that was very stupid. We weren’t in a relationship but I considered him a good time.

Although this is not the ideal situation for me and my son right now, I’ve learned a lot from this. I’ve had to develop a sense of survival. Just for information sake, my son’s dad is not active in his life. It seems like he doesn’t want to be involved and the way I see it, he is an adult who made the decision not to take care of his son.

I do experience a lot of emotions and at times I don’t understand how to deal with them. I have never been the type of person to express my feelings because I do have trust issues. It can be overwhelming and I often stress about everyday needs. I hate having to make ends meets, especially now that I am looking for employment. I am thankful for my friends and family who have stepped in to help me raise my son. Without them, my situation would be much worse then it is now.

By starting this blog, I have way to express myself and help develop my communication skills without feeling overly pressured. I hope this blog helps someone in the same situation. I want my readers to feel inspired, regardless of their situation, whether they are parents or not. I want to express positivity without being overly depressing. If there is anyone out there who feels like life can be hopeless at times, just know that your are more than capable of overcoming your problems. I haven’t accomplished all my dreams yet but now I have a reason to fight harder, push myself, and live life to the fullest. I want to encourage everyone out there to be the best version of you and always strive for your life’s desire. The journey isn’t easy but you never know what rewards await you at the finish line. Continue to be encouraged and know you can make it. Any downfall you experience is just a bigger reason to get back up and continue pushing forward.

YOU GOT THIS!!

I’ve always known I would reach this point but I never knew I could feel like this.

I have to start over….and I hate it every time. My perspective on everything I’ve know growing up is changing as I continue to grow as an adult. My mother was a single parent but my father still had a presence in my life. Now I am in a similar situation but my son’s father has no presence.

Continue reading I’m unemployed

You are enough!

Good morning everyone!

I am here to let you know that you are more than enough to achieve your goals. I am having to teach myself this every day. There are times when you ask yourself “Why am I doing this?” and you can’t give yourself a response. Combating this type of thinking is a challenge and it’s an obstacle that you MUST overcome. Every person in this world has a special ability that makes them unique. You have to let the fear go and handle the “what if’s” head on. Let the real you come through regardless of others opinion.

YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU AR MORE THAN ENOUGH!