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What now?! (12/26/18)



“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on you don’t have, you’ll never, ever have enough”

Oprah Winfrey


Hey everyone,

It’s been a very long time since I wrote for the blog and per usual some crazy shit has happened that caused me to write again. I’m not upset about the situation, all I want is peace. I don’t want to bring any unnecessary drama or ill feelings to 2019. Despite the situation, I will continue to strive for my goals and dreams.

“Positivity brings about a peace of mind which in turn relaxes your whole being”

Suman Arora

2018 has brought so many ups and downs as well as life lessons. I learned how strong I can be as a person and as a mother. Despite how bad I’m ending the year, I will prevail in 2019.

Here is a preview of some of my goals for 2019:

  • Single Parent Adventures
  • Complete my book “Broke with a baby”
  • Live fearlessly and unapologetically
  • Becoming a kick-ass parent

With all that being said, let’s get it in 2019

Let’s talk about my son!

Hey everyone,

I just made a recent discovery. I was going through my blog and I realized that a majority of my posts were not about my child. Although I do enjoy writing inspirational and motivational posts, the whole purpose of this blog is supposed to be about the life of a single parent. I love my son and watching him grow up is truly a blessing. Let’s me give some more details about him.

My son’s name is Jeremiah. He is 2 years old and full of life. I am not in the best situation and I know that does have an effect on how he is growing up right now.  I am thankful that we have a place to live, even if it is with family. I am working to change our situation and, as my last post stated, I am trusting the process.

My son is developmentally behind on some of his learning achievements. I know my son is extremely smart and understands a lot for his age. His motor skills are freaking amazing but he lacks in the talking department. Does anyone have any suggestions to help my son communicate with me better? Any suggestions are welcome!

I am learning to stay strong in my decisions when it comes to my child. That can be difficult when you deal with opposing views. I don’t mind the way my parents raised me, I just wanna do things differently.

I hope everyone enjoyed reading this post. Feel free to leave comments if you want to.

 

Love,

Kandice

Stop being lazy (I’m talking to myself)

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”

George Herbert via success.com

Good morning readers!

Please forgive me. I keep telling myself that I want to be more consistent with my blog but I let laziness get in the way. My “life” situation continues to change and I find it difficult to adjust at times.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, outside of consistency, laziness is another concept I struggle with.  I get so caught with my personal issues, I forget to focus on things that are important to me (i.e this blog lol). I use YouTube, the internet, and television as distractions to redirect my attention away from my problems. Facing challenges are difficult and stress does build up in the process, but it is very important to maintain focus.

Let me explain how laziness affects me. At this moment, I am STILL unemployed. It has been almost 4 months since I lost my job. Although I now have all this free time, my situation has changed again. I have moved in my family and I help take care of my sick father. I want to be an asset to my family right now but my laziness (and unemployment) keep me from it.

Regardless of my current situation, I know I can prevail because I believe my situation does not determine my final destination. I believe that the most successful people have the darkest history and they never let their past dictate their future.

Have a great week and continue to follow your dreams!

Love,

Kandice

The fear of Success

What am I afraid of? This is a question I often ask myself as I’m on my blogging journey. When I started this blog, I never really had a goal in mind. I just wanted to express my feelings in a way that’s comfortable for me. Sometime I feel like most of the world won’t care for my story but I also believe my story will impact someone’s life.

I woke up in the middle of the night and all I could think of was a song by Good Charlotte called “Life changes”. I’m reading through the lyrics and these words stuck out the most:

“You know that love changes

The pain, it rearranges

Best friends become strangers

Don’t you know that life changes 

So you get up and shake it off

Smile at everyone you meet

Put your best foot forward, chip on your shoulder

It’s like you can’t be beat

It’s like we can’t be beat”

I believe change is a vital part on the road to success and it’s nothing to be afraid of. If you aren’t willing to accept change in your life, how can you grown into the next picture of success? The crazy thing is, success is what I am afraid of. I don’t want success to change any values I have or that my son will develop. I’ve seen how success can negatively impact people but I have also seen the positive impact too. I’m just afraid success could change who I am as a person, so I am trying to find the best ways to be humble and happy in every situation. 

I was on the reader and I came across Ben Huberman’s article called “Three ways to take your website visitors behind the scenes”. After reading the article, I asked a question. I wanted to know how to show multiple sides of me without taking away from the main purpose of the blog. He gave me some helpful tips to help further develop my blog. I was actually pleasantly surprised when he replied to my comment. I definitely recommend checking out the discover section because you never know where your next great or inspiration will come from. Here is a link to the article if you wanna check it out.

Three ways to take your website visitors behind the scenes

Don’t be afraid to take a step toward your future because you don’t know what’s on the road ahead. That fear can stop you from achieving your greatest dreams. Just get out there and do it!

Consistency is my weakness

“There are no secrets to success. It is a result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure”

– Colin Powell

Hey Readers,

First off, I just wanna say I love my son with all my heart. He is the center of my world and I enjoy watching him grow up in front of my eyes. I love him so much that I want him to have the best life has to offer. In order for him to have the best, it starts with me. He pays attention to everything I am doing, whether he knows it or not. He craves love and attention from me; that’s what I strive for everyday. Our lives are a little bit difficult now that I am unemployed but I know I’ll get back on my feet soon. In order for me to do that, I have to face one of my BIGGEST weaknesses…CONSISTENCY!!!.

During my job hunting, I have had a lot of time to think. I think about different moments during my life, whether it be jobs or interactions with people. A lot of negative and toxic people are from my life and I am grateful to God for that. I do get distracted from my goals quite easily and that plays into my inconsistency issues. I hate that my son has to witness this; he doesn’t understand it yet. When he gets older, he will mimic my habits for the obvious fact that I am his primary parent.

I don’t the best way to overcome this and I would like some advice.

If you have any suggestions, please feel free to let me know!!