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What now?! (12/26/18)



“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on you don’t have, you’ll never, ever have enough”

Oprah Winfrey


Hey everyone,

It’s been a very long time since I wrote for the blog and per usual some crazy shit has happened that caused me to write again. I’m not upset about the situation, all I want is peace. I don’t want to bring any unnecessary drama or ill feelings to 2019. Despite the situation, I will continue to strive for my goals and dreams.

“Positivity brings about a peace of mind which in turn relaxes your whole being”

Suman Arora

2018 has brought so many ups and downs as well as life lessons. I learned how strong I can be as a person and as a mother. Despite how bad I’m ending the year, I will prevail in 2019.

Here is a preview of some of my goals for 2019:

  • Single Parent Adventures
  • Complete my book “Broke with a baby”
  • Live fearlessly and unapologetically
  • Becoming a kick-ass parent

With all that being said, let’s get it in 2019

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Good morning everyone,

I hope you all woke up with a purpose and a drive to accomplish your goals.

I was feeling inspired and I just wanted to write about a subject that I’ve dealt with my entire life.

As we develop as individuals, it can be tough when people you love have their opinions on everything. Whether it’s how you should dress, how you speak, how you should act, who you should hang around, and even how you think.

I see this so often as an adult, I can only imagine how tough it can be for a child. Everyone is raised differently and that shows through our parenting style. Sometimes I reflect back on how I was raised and how it has affected me as an adult. Just to give a brief example, I wish my mom would’ve taught me to appreciate my natural hair instead of forcing me to get it relaxed. Now that I am natural, I’m learning how to take better care of my hair, even if it’s not the easiest task.

I just want the relationship between my son and I to be as healthy as possible. I have a strong belief that you can raise a child to be a respectable, honest adult without having to constantly yell or belittle them.

Readers, if you have any thoughts on this manner, feel free to leave a comment.

Sidenote: This post has been sitting in my drafts for six days. I am so embarassed to even mention that. Even worse, I started this post in my notebook at the beginning of the month. Although I didn’t need to mention any of this information, I do try to put thought and effort into every post. Life just happens sometimes.

Thank you for listening

Kandice

 

 

 

 

It’s okay to go MIA

Dear readers,

I don’t want anyone to think I’ve forgotten about the blog. Life began to get overwhelming and I really needed extra time to compose myself.

When life does get overwhelming, I tend to fall into depressive slumps that aren’t good for me. Let’s just say handling my emotions is not my strong point.

As the title says, it’s okay to go MIA. You need that time to recharge your batteries and regain focus. I have this belief that taking care of mental health is just as Important as taking care of your physical health.

I’m the next post, hopefully this week, I want to focus more on mental health.

I know this is a short post. I really want to focus back on the blog and recommit myself to a constant post schedule.

I thank the world for my readers

-Kandice Franklin

P.S. if you have any suggestions for consistency and general focus, please feel free to comment

Stop being lazy (I’m talking to myself)

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”

George Herbert via success.com

Good morning readers!

Please forgive me. I keep telling myself that I want to be more consistent with my blog but I let laziness get in the way. My “life” situation continues to change and I find it difficult to adjust at times.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, outside of consistency, laziness is another concept I struggle with.  I get so caught with my personal issues, I forget to focus on things that are important to me (i.e this blog lol). I use YouTube, the internet, and television as distractions to redirect my attention away from my problems. Facing challenges are difficult and stress does build up in the process, but it is very important to maintain focus.

Let me explain how laziness affects me. At this moment, I am STILL unemployed. It has been almost 4 months since I lost my job. Although I now have all this free time, my situation has changed again. I have moved in my family and I help take care of my sick father. I want to be an asset to my family right now but my laziness (and unemployment) keep me from it.

Regardless of my current situation, I know I can prevail because I believe my situation does not determine my final destination. I believe that the most successful people have the darkest history and they never let their past dictate their future.

Have a great week and continue to follow your dreams!

Love,

Kandice

I’ve always known I would reach this point but I never knew I could feel like this.

I have to start over….and I hate it every time. My perspective on everything I’ve know growing up is changing as I continue to grow as an adult. My mother was a single parent but my father still had a presence in my life. Now I am in a similar situation but my son’s father has no presence.

Continue reading I’m unemployed

Consciousness…

If I could predict the future, my life might not have as much meaning as it does now. Growing up, I really didn’t have much to worry about. Life seemed so much simpler than my actual reality. There is so much I wish I could’ve done differently if I knew better or learned it early on. 

I say this because I don’t want my child to make the same mistakes I did. I have been learning and researching the knowledge I missed out on just so I can teach my son. 

Right now, he is fast asleep. As I watch him sleep, he looks so innocent. He doesn’t understand the world is changing right before his eyes. As generations grow up, the struggle grows stronger. I don’t know if I can invest in my sons future. I am barely making it now, I can’t imagine what could happen when he gets ready for college. 

I am trying to teach myself extreme discipline with limited resources. The ability to better yourself is a conscious and time consuming task. Discipline and consistency are two things I don’t excel in and I’m finding that out the hard way. 

I know I’ll get better over time and maybe then I’ll be less overwhelmed. I just want the best for my son, that’s all I’ll ever need to be feel decent in my situation.