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Good morning everyone,

I hope you all woke up with a purpose and a drive to accomplish your goals.

I was feeling inspired and I just wanted to write about a subject that I’ve dealt with my entire life.

As we develop as individuals, it can be tough when people you love have their opinions on everything. Whether it’s how you should dress, how you speak, how you should act, who you should hang around, and even how you think.

I see this so often as an adult, I can only imagine how tough it can be for a child. Everyone is raised differently and that shows through our parenting style. Sometimes I reflect back on how I was raised and how it has affected me as an adult. Just to give a brief example, I wish my mom would’ve taught me to appreciate my natural hair instead of forcing me to get it relaxed. Now that I am natural, I’m learning how to take better care of my hair, even if it’s not the easiest task.

I just want the relationship between my son and I to be as healthy as possible. I have a strong belief that you can raise a child to be a respectable, honest adult without having to constantly yell or belittle them.

Readers, if you have any thoughts on this manner, feel free to leave a comment.

Sidenote: This post has been sitting in my drafts for six days. I am so embarassed to even mention that. Even worse, I started this post in my notebook at the beginning of the month. Although I didn’t need to mention any of this information, I do try to put thought and effort into every post. Life just happens sometimes.

Thank you for listening

Kandice

 

 

 

 

Let’s talk about my son!

Hey everyone,

I just made a recent discovery. I was going through my blog and I realized that a majority of my posts were not about my child. Although I do enjoy writing inspirational and motivational posts, the whole purpose of this blog is supposed to be about the life of a single parent. I love my son and watching him grow up is truly a blessing. Let’s me give some more details about him.

My son’s name is Jeremiah. He is 2 years old and full of life. I am not in the best situation and I know that does have an effect on how he is growing up right now.  I am thankful that we have a place to live, even if it is with family. I am working to change our situation and, as my last post stated, I am trusting the process.

My son is developmentally behind on some of his learning achievements. I know my son is extremely smart and understands a lot for his age. His motor skills are freaking amazing but he lacks in the talking department. Does anyone have any suggestions to help my son communicate with me better? Any suggestions are welcome!

I am learning to stay strong in my decisions when it comes to my child. That can be difficult when you deal with opposing views. I don’t mind the way my parents raised me, I just wanna do things differently.

I hope everyone enjoyed reading this post. Feel free to leave comments if you want to.

 

Love,

Kandice

An unexpected delivery: A birth story

It’s crazy how life works. My entire delivery was surprising and unexpected. I left work expecting an easy routine check up on my baby. Apparently, God has other plans that day. Since my due date was around the corner, well the following month to be exact, the doctor was doing movement tests on my son. I struggled with this test previously but today my son barely showed any movement. I didn’t think much of it at first because I assumed my son would start moving. After being tested by two different doctors, I was told to head to labor and delivery. The only thing on my mind was “When am I going to eat?” because I was starving. I didn’t hit me until I was actually in the delivery room filling out paperwork. My group text messages from work were every off the chain.

I couldn’t believe it was happening….

Delivery

To my readers

Dear readers,

I am a single parent. My life is not easy. I struggle emotionally everyday. Not every parents situation is the same. If you child or children are fortunate enough to both parents active in their lives, I applaud you but I am also jealous. I never felt like I was ready to have a child. My son is almost a year now and I am still not fully ready for parenthood. I am not gonna lie, I had sex with one person for a couple of months when I got pregnant. I wasn’t smart about the situation because I was having unprotected sex, which could have been avoided, and that was very stupid. We weren’t in a relationship but I considered him a good time.

Although this is not the ideal situation for me and my son right now, I’ve learned a lot from this. I’ve had to develop a sense of survival. Just for information sake, my son’s dad is not active in his life. It seems like he doesn’t want to be involved and the way I see it, he is an adult who made the decision not to take care of his son.

I do experience a lot of emotions and at times I don’t understand how to deal with them. I have never been the type of person to express my feelings because I do have trust issues. It can be overwhelming and I often stress about everyday needs. I hate having to make ends meets, especially now that I am looking for employment. I am thankful for my friends and family who have stepped in to help me raise my son. Without them, my situation would be much worse then it is now.

By starting this blog, I have way to express myself and help develop my communication skills without feeling overly pressured. I hope this blog helps someone in the same situation. I want my readers to feel inspired, regardless of their situation, whether they are parents or not. I want to express positivity without being overly depressing. If there is anyone out there who feels like life can be hopeless at times, just know that your are more than capable of overcoming your problems. I haven’t accomplished all my dreams yet but now I have a reason to fight harder, push myself, and live life to the fullest. I want to encourage everyone out there to be the best version of you and always strive for your life’s desire. The journey isn’t easy but you never know what rewards await you at the finish line. Continue to be encouraged and know you can make it. Any downfall you experience is just a bigger reason to get back up and continue pushing forward.

YOU GOT THIS!!

Consciousness…

If I could predict the future, my life might not have as much meaning as it does now. Growing up, I really didn’t have much to worry about. Life seemed so much simpler than my actual reality. There is so much I wish I could’ve done differently if I knew better or learned it early on. 

I say this because I don’t want my child to make the same mistakes I did. I have been learning and researching the knowledge I missed out on just so I can teach my son. 

Right now, he is fast asleep. As I watch him sleep, he looks so innocent. He doesn’t understand the world is changing right before his eyes. As generations grow up, the struggle grows stronger. I don’t know if I can invest in my sons future. I am barely making it now, I can’t imagine what could happen when he gets ready for college. 

I am trying to teach myself extreme discipline with limited resources. The ability to better yourself is a conscious and time consuming task. Discipline and consistency are two things I don’t excel in and I’m finding that out the hard way. 

I know I’ll get better over time and maybe then I’ll be less overwhelmed. I just want the best for my son, that’s all I’ll ever need to be feel decent in my situation.