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Chasing your dreams!

I just want to start off by saying that I plan to post a new blog once every week. I am learning to be more consistent and I figured why not start with the blog. Writing this blog has definitely given me a new sense of purpose.

I love the idea of chasing your dreams. It’s exciting but it also comes with a price. Personally, I am starting a path to become a millionaire. In my head, it sounds completely crazy and daring. I don’t consider myself to be the average person nor do I want to live the average lifestyle. It’s going to take a lot of hard work and dedication if I wanna make this happen.

Unfortunately, I have a horrible habit of laziness that can make this dream difficult to achieve. I am trying my absolute hardest to break this habit. I want my son to have better habits and a better understanding of life in general. Life can be difficult enough but how you overcome the obstacles is the important factor.

You also have to understand that everyone is not going to support you. This is the HARD lesson to learn. You have to learn to support and motivate yourself. Everyone is not going to be on your side and you need to be okay with that. If you want to be successful, haters come with the territory. A hater can be anybody, even those the closest to you. I’m tired of asking family and friends for help knowing they don’t want to help in the first place. It’s time for me to gain and maintain the lifestyle I want without the help from others.

I can no longer rely on help from others. My goals are not aligned with everyone else’s. I feel like I am set apart from the rest of the world and I have to start acting like it. I am confident in my abilities and I know I can accomplish my dreams!

An unexpected delivery: A birth story

It’s crazy how life works. My entire delivery was surprising and unexpected. I left work expecting an easy routine check up on my baby. Apparently, God has other plans that day. Since my due date was around the corner, well the following month to be exact, the doctor was doing movement tests on my son. I struggled with this test previously but today my son barely showed any movement. I didn’t think much of it at first because I assumed my son would start moving. After being tested by two different doctors, I was told to head to labor and delivery. The only thing on my mind was “When am I going to eat?” because I was starving. I didn’t hit me until I was actually in the delivery room filling out paperwork. My group text messages from work were every off the chain.

I couldn’t believe it was happening….

Delivery

The fear of Success

What am I afraid of? This is a question I often ask myself as I’m on my blogging journey. When I started this blog, I never really had a goal in mind. I just wanted to express my feelings in a way that’s comfortable for me. Sometime I feel like most of the world won’t care for my story but I also believe my story will impact someone’s life.

I woke up in the middle of the night and all I could think of was a song by Good Charlotte called “Life changes”. I’m reading through the lyrics and these words stuck out the most:

“You know that love changes

The pain, it rearranges

Best friends become strangers

Don’t you know that life changes 

So you get up and shake it off

Smile at everyone you meet

Put your best foot forward, chip on your shoulder

It’s like you can’t be beat

It’s like we can’t be beat”

I believe change is a vital part on the road to success and it’s nothing to be afraid of. If you aren’t willing to accept change in your life, how can you grown into the next picture of success? The crazy thing is, success is what I am afraid of. I don’t want success to change any values I have or that my son will develop. I’ve seen how success can negatively impact people but I have also seen the positive impact too. I’m just afraid success could change who I am as a person, so I am trying to find the best ways to be humble and happy in every situation. 

I was on the reader and I came across Ben Huberman’s article called “Three ways to take your website visitors behind the scenes”. After reading the article, I asked a question. I wanted to know how to show multiple sides of me without taking away from the main purpose of the blog. He gave me some helpful tips to help further develop my blog. I was actually pleasantly surprised when he replied to my comment. I definitely recommend checking out the discover section because you never know where your next great or inspiration will come from. Here is a link to the article if you wanna check it out.

Three ways to take your website visitors behind the scenes

Don’t be afraid to take a step toward your future because you don’t know what’s on the road ahead. That fear can stop you from achieving your greatest dreams. Just get out there and do it!

To my readers

Dear readers,

I am a single parent. My life is not easy. I struggle emotionally everyday. Not every parents situation is the same. If you child or children are fortunate enough to both parents active in their lives, I applaud you but I am also jealous. I never felt like I was ready to have a child. My son is almost a year now and I am still not fully ready for parenthood. I am not gonna lie, I had sex with one person for a couple of months when I got pregnant. I wasn’t smart about the situation because I was having unprotected sex, which could have been avoided, and that was very stupid. We weren’t in a relationship but I considered him a good time.

Although this is not the ideal situation for me and my son right now, I’ve learned a lot from this. I’ve had to develop a sense of survival. Just for information sake, my son’s dad is not active in his life. It seems like he doesn’t want to be involved and the way I see it, he is an adult who made the decision not to take care of his son.

I do experience a lot of emotions and at times I don’t understand how to deal with them. I have never been the type of person to express my feelings because I do have trust issues. It can be overwhelming and I often stress about everyday needs. I hate having to make ends meets, especially now that I am looking for employment. I am thankful for my friends and family who have stepped in to help me raise my son. Without them, my situation would be much worse then it is now.

By starting this blog, I have way to express myself and help develop my communication skills without feeling overly pressured. I hope this blog helps someone in the same situation. I want my readers to feel inspired, regardless of their situation, whether they are parents or not. I want to express positivity without being overly depressing. If there is anyone out there who feels like life can be hopeless at times, just know that your are more than capable of overcoming your problems. I haven’t accomplished all my dreams yet but now I have a reason to fight harder, push myself, and live life to the fullest. I want to encourage everyone out there to be the best version of you and always strive for your life’s desire. The journey isn’t easy but you never know what rewards await you at the finish line. Continue to be encouraged and know you can make it. Any downfall you experience is just a bigger reason to get back up and continue pushing forward.

YOU GOT THIS!!

A Re-Introduction: Who I am, Why I am here

Let me reintroduce myself. I want this blog to have some structure and a sense of purpose. I’ve always wanted to start a blog for so long but I was always afraid to take a leap of faith.

I did post an introduction for this blog about a month ago and I gave a general summary of what I wanted this blog to be.  I wasn’t satisfied with the post because I felt like it didn’t give the proper introduction of me or the blog itself.  I want my audience to understand my perspective. My experiences might help someone who feels exactly like I do.

My name is Kandice Franklin and I am a single parent. I just want to highlight different aspects of my life and the emotions that come with it. I often feel that sometimes being a single parent can be seen in a negative light and I want to change that. Through this blog, you will experience some of the highs and lows I face on an everyday basis. I never thought I would be in this position but I am thankful for this learning experience. I get the opportunity to prove how tough I am mentally and how that transfers to my parenting skills.

Thank you for taking the time out to read this and I appreciate you!

-Kandice Franklin