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Breaking Generational Curses

Whatever you would have your child become, strive to exhibit in your own lives and conversation

-Lydia H. Sigourney

I don’t know if my parent or elders are aware of this but our world is changing. Now this is going to sound disrespectful but I don’t respect my elders. And this is going to sound more disrespectful but just because you’re older, doesn’t mean you’re wiser.

I still consider myself a new mom, so I’m learning what I like and dislike when it comes to how I raise my son. I do have a strong opinion on what habits my son takes from our family. I do have respect for most of my family, to a certain extent, but I can’t follow everything they try to force down my throat. Regardless of anyone’s opinion, I’m going to raise my son how I feel is best for the both of us. I want my son to have the best in life and I also want to show him the right tools he needs for success. In order for me to do that, I have to break generational curses set forth from my family.

When trying to break generational curses, understand that you will be met with opposition….major opposition but you have to stand firm no matter what.

The debate I’m dealing with right now is whether or not to cut my son’s hair. My family is so adamant for me to cut it just because it doesn’t look like what it’s supposed to look like…..whatever that means. They have never explained their point but they continue to shove the idea down my throat. I can see why they feel they way they do but they are also in a different financial situation than me. From a financial standpoint, trying to maintain haircuts is not something I can afford to do. They may not realize that I’m a single mother with no income. I think about my future quite a bit and I also consider finances when I no longer live in my families house. I don’t want to start getting my son ‘s cut if I can’t afford to keep maintain it.

It’s okay to take advice from people but at the end of the day, you’re still the parent. If you don’t agree with the parenting tips given to you, it’s okay totally fine not to follow it. I mainly want to teach my son to love himself because I know as he continues to grow up, he will deal with some hard stuff emotionally and I never want that negativity to come me.

Let me know what you think, I would love to hear your feedback.

There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so just be a real one

-Sue Atkins

What now?! (12/26/18)



“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on you don’t have, you’ll never, ever have enough”

Oprah Winfrey


Hey everyone,

It’s been a very long time since I wrote for the blog and per usual some crazy shit has happened that caused me to write again. I’m not upset about the situation, all I want is peace. I don’t want to bring any unnecessary drama or ill feelings to 2019. Despite the situation, I will continue to strive for my goals and dreams.

“Positivity brings about a peace of mind which in turn relaxes your whole being”

Suman Arora

2018 has brought so many ups and downs as well as life lessons. I learned how strong I can be as a person and as a mother. Despite how bad I’m ending the year, I will prevail in 2019.

Here is a preview of some of my goals for 2019:

  • Single Parent Adventures
  • Complete my book “Broke with a baby”
  • Live fearlessly and unapologetically
  • Becoming a kick-ass parent

With all that being said, let’s get it in 2019

Let’s talk about my son!

Hey everyone,

I just made a recent discovery. I was going through my blog and I realized that a majority of my posts were not about my child. Although I do enjoy writing inspirational and motivational posts, the whole purpose of this blog is supposed to be about the life of a single parent. I love my son and watching him grow up is truly a blessing. Let’s me give some more details about him.

My son’s name is Jeremiah. He is 2 years old and full of life. I am not in the best situation and I know that does have an effect on how he is growing up right now.  I am thankful that we have a place to live, even if it is with family. I am working to change our situation and, as my last post stated, I am trusting the process.

My son is developmentally behind on some of his learning achievements. I know my son is extremely smart and understands a lot for his age. His motor skills are freaking amazing but he lacks in the talking department. Does anyone have any suggestions to help my son communicate with me better? Any suggestions are welcome!

I am learning to stay strong in my decisions when it comes to my child. That can be difficult when you deal with opposing views. I don’t mind the way my parents raised me, I just wanna do things differently.

I hope everyone enjoyed reading this post. Feel free to leave comments if you want to.

 

Love,

Kandice

Trust the Process

To my readers,

Here I go again. I am THE WORST. I don’t know why I’m this way. I let life get the best of me and I neglect my blog once again. I keep telling myself to focus and post more but every time I get a boost of energy, I quickly plateau later. As I have mentioned in previous posts, I struggle with consistency. I looked at my stats and I’m shocked that my last post was about 3 months ago. Although I am shocked, I’m not surprised by my actions. Even with all that goes on in my life, I have to learn to push myself to be more consistent and trust the process.

“Trust is built with consistency.”

Lincoln Chafee

I know I want to be successful in the future an I understand that there is a process involved. I feel that in order to reach my goals, I must be willing to make sacrifices. I see so many success stories and I always wondered how that person got to that point. For example, I want this blog to be successful. I had wanted to start a blog for so long but I was always afraid of what my closest family and friends who think. It got to a point where I just said “Fuck it, I’m going to start my  blog!”. I wanted to be able to express my feelings when no one would listen. It’s hard being a loner because you constantly feel like no one listens or even pays any attention to you.

“When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.”

As I continue to grow personally, I must trust the process. I know the road will be rough and it will have many bumps along the way. I will do whatever it takes to remain encouraged and continue to follow my dreams.

I encourage all my readers to continue reach your goals and always stay encouraged.

Much love

-Kandice

Stop being lazy (I’m talking to myself)

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”

George Herbert via success.com

Good morning readers!

Please forgive me. I keep telling myself that I want to be more consistent with my blog but I let laziness get in the way. My “life” situation continues to change and I find it difficult to adjust at times.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, outside of consistency, laziness is another concept I struggle with.  I get so caught with my personal issues, I forget to focus on things that are important to me (i.e this blog lol). I use YouTube, the internet, and television as distractions to redirect my attention away from my problems. Facing challenges are difficult and stress does build up in the process, but it is very important to maintain focus.

Let me explain how laziness affects me. At this moment, I am STILL unemployed. It has been almost 4 months since I lost my job. Although I now have all this free time, my situation has changed again. I have moved in my family and I help take care of my sick father. I want to be an asset to my family right now but my laziness (and unemployment) keep me from it.

Regardless of my current situation, I know I can prevail because I believe my situation does not determine my final destination. I believe that the most successful people have the darkest history and they never let their past dictate their future.

Have a great week and continue to follow your dreams!

Love,

Kandice

Chasing your dreams!

I just want to start off by saying that I plan to post a new blog once every week. I am learning to be more consistent and I figured why not start with the blog. Writing this blog has definitely given me a new sense of purpose.

I love the idea of chasing your dreams. It’s exciting but it also comes with a price. Personally, I am starting a path to become a millionaire. In my head, it sounds completely crazy and daring. I don’t consider myself to be the average person nor do I want to live the average lifestyle. It’s going to take a lot of hard work and dedication if I wanna make this happen.

Unfortunately, I have a horrible habit of laziness that can make this dream difficult to achieve. I am trying my absolute hardest to break this habit. I want my son to have better habits and a better understanding of life in general. Life can be difficult enough but how you overcome the obstacles is the important factor.

You also have to understand that everyone is not going to support you. This is the HARD lesson to learn. You have to learn to support and motivate yourself. Everyone is not going to be on your side and you need to be okay with that. If you want to be successful, haters come with the territory. A hater can be anybody, even those the closest to you. I’m tired of asking family and friends for help knowing they don’t want to help in the first place. It’s time for me to gain and maintain the lifestyle I want without the help from others.

I can no longer rely on help from others. My goals are not aligned with everyone else’s. I feel like I am set apart from the rest of the world and I have to start acting like it. I am confident in my abilities and I know I can accomplish my dreams!

The fear of Success

What am I afraid of? This is a question I often ask myself as I’m on my blogging journey. When I started this blog, I never really had a goal in mind. I just wanted to express my feelings in a way that’s comfortable for me. Sometime I feel like most of the world won’t care for my story but I also believe my story will impact someone’s life.

I woke up in the middle of the night and all I could think of was a song by Good Charlotte called “Life changes”. I’m reading through the lyrics and these words stuck out the most:

“You know that love changes

The pain, it rearranges

Best friends become strangers

Don’t you know that life changes 

So you get up and shake it off

Smile at everyone you meet

Put your best foot forward, chip on your shoulder

It’s like you can’t be beat

It’s like we can’t be beat”

I believe change is a vital part on the road to success and it’s nothing to be afraid of. If you aren’t willing to accept change in your life, how can you grown into the next picture of success? The crazy thing is, success is what I am afraid of. I don’t want success to change any values I have or that my son will develop. I’ve seen how success can negatively impact people but I have also seen the positive impact too. I’m just afraid success could change who I am as a person, so I am trying to find the best ways to be humble and happy in every situation. 

I was on the reader and I came across Ben Huberman’s article called “Three ways to take your website visitors behind the scenes”. After reading the article, I asked a question. I wanted to know how to show multiple sides of me without taking away from the main purpose of the blog. He gave me some helpful tips to help further develop my blog. I was actually pleasantly surprised when he replied to my comment. I definitely recommend checking out the discover section because you never know where your next great or inspiration will come from. Here is a link to the article if you wanna check it out.

Three ways to take your website visitors behind the scenes

Don’t be afraid to take a step toward your future because you don’t know what’s on the road ahead. That fear can stop you from achieving your greatest dreams. Just get out there and do it!

A Re-Introduction: Who I am, Why I am here

Let me reintroduce myself. I want this blog to have some structure and a sense of purpose. I’ve always wanted to start a blog for so long but I was always afraid to take a leap of faith.

I did post an introduction for this blog about a month ago and I gave a general summary of what I wanted this blog to be.  I wasn’t satisfied with the post because I felt like it didn’t give the proper introduction of me or the blog itself.  I want my audience to understand my perspective. My experiences might help someone who feels exactly like I do.

My name is Kandice Franklin and I am a single parent. I just want to highlight different aspects of my life and the emotions that come with it. I often feel that sometimes being a single parent can be seen in a negative light and I want to change that. Through this blog, you will experience some of the highs and lows I face on an everyday basis. I never thought I would be in this position but I am thankful for this learning experience. I get the opportunity to prove how tough I am mentally and how that transfers to my parenting skills.

Thank you for taking the time out to read this and I appreciate you!

-Kandice Franklin

Consistency is my weakness

“There are no secrets to success. It is a result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure”

– Colin Powell

Hey Readers,

First off, I just wanna say I love my son with all my heart. He is the center of my world and I enjoy watching him grow up in front of my eyes. I love him so much that I want him to have the best life has to offer. In order for him to have the best, it starts with me. He pays attention to everything I am doing, whether he knows it or not. He craves love and attention from me; that’s what I strive for everyday. Our lives are a little bit difficult now that I am unemployed but I know I’ll get back on my feet soon. In order for me to do that, I have to face one of my BIGGEST weaknesses…CONSISTENCY!!!.

During my job hunting, I have had a lot of time to think. I think about different moments during my life, whether it be jobs or interactions with people. A lot of negative and toxic people are from my life and I am grateful to God for that. I do get distracted from my goals quite easily and that plays into my inconsistency issues. I hate that my son has to witness this; he doesn’t understand it yet. When he gets older, he will mimic my habits for the obvious fact that I am his primary parent.

I don’t the best way to overcome this and I would like some advice.

If you have any suggestions, please feel free to let me know!!