Breaking Generational Curses

Whatever you would have your child become, strive to exhibit in your own lives and conversation

-Lydia H. Sigourney

I don’t know if my parent or elders are aware of this but our world is changing. Now this is going to sound disrespectful but I don’t respect my elders. And this is going to sound more disrespectful but just because you’re older, doesn’t mean you’re wiser.

I still consider myself a new mom, so I’m learning what I like and dislike when it comes to how I raise my son. I do have a strong opinion on what habits my son takes from our family. I do have respect for most of my family, to a certain extent, but I can’t follow everything they try to force down my throat. Regardless of anyone’s opinion, I’m going to raise my son how I feel is best for the both of us. I want my son to have the best in life and I also want to show him the right tools he needs for success. In order for me to do that, I have to break generational curses set forth from my family.

When trying to break generational curses, understand that you will be met with opposition….major opposition but you have to stand firm no matter what.

The debate I’m dealing with right now is whether or not to cut my son’s hair. My family is so adamant for me to cut it just because it doesn’t look like what it’s supposed to look like…..whatever that means. They have never explained their point but they continue to shove the idea down my throat. I can see why they feel they way they do but they are also in a different financial situation than me. From a financial standpoint, trying to maintain haircuts is not something I can afford to do. They may not realize that I’m a single mother with no income. I think about my future quite a bit and I also consider finances when I no longer live in my families house. I don’t want to start getting my son ‘s cut if I can’t afford to keep maintain it.

It’s okay to take advice from people but at the end of the day, you’re still the parent. If you don’t agree with the parenting tips given to you, it’s okay totally fine not to follow it. I mainly want to teach my son to love himself because I know as he continues to grow up, he will deal with some hard stuff emotionally and I never want that negativity to come me.

Let me know what you think, I would love to hear your feedback.

There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so just be a real one

-Sue Atkins
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What now?! (12/26/18)



“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on you don’t have, you’ll never, ever have enough”

Oprah Winfrey


Hey everyone,

It’s been a very long time since I wrote for the blog and per usual some crazy shit has happened that caused me to write again. I’m not upset about the situation, all I want is peace. I don’t want to bring any unnecessary drama or ill feelings to 2019. Despite the situation, I will continue to strive for my goals and dreams.

“Positivity brings about a peace of mind which in turn relaxes your whole being”

Suman Arora

2018 has brought so many ups and downs as well as life lessons. I learned how strong I can be as a person and as a mother. Despite how bad I’m ending the year, I will prevail in 2019.

Here is a preview of some of my goals for 2019:

  • Single Parent Adventures
  • Complete my book “Broke with a baby”
  • Live fearlessly and unapologetically
  • Becoming a kick-ass parent

With all that being said, let’s get it in 2019

Good morning everyone,

I hope you all woke up with a purpose and a drive to accomplish your goals.

I was feeling inspired and I just wanted to write about a subject that I’ve dealt with my entire life.

As we develop as individuals, it can be tough when people you love have their opinions on everything. Whether it’s how you should dress, how you speak, how you should act, who you should hang around, and even how you think.

I see this so often as an adult, I can only imagine how tough it can be for a child. Everyone is raised differently and that shows through our parenting style. Sometimes I reflect back on how I was raised and how it has affected me as an adult. Just to give a brief example, I wish my mom would’ve taught me to appreciate my natural hair instead of forcing me to get it relaxed. Now that I am natural, I’m learning how to take better care of my hair, even if it’s not the easiest task.

I just want the relationship between my son and I to be as healthy as possible. I have a strong belief that you can raise a child to be a respectable, honest adult without having to constantly yell or belittle them.

Readers, if you have any thoughts on this manner, feel free to leave a comment.

Sidenote: This post has been sitting in my drafts for six days. I am so embarassed to even mention that. Even worse, I started this post in my notebook at the beginning of the month. Although I didn’t need to mention any of this information, I do try to put thought and effort into every post. Life just happens sometimes.

Thank you for listening

Kandice

 

 

 

 

Let’s talk about my son!

Hey everyone,

I just made a recent discovery. I was going through my blog and I realized that a majority of my posts were not about my child. Although I do enjoy writing inspirational and motivational posts, the whole purpose of this blog is supposed to be about the life of a single parent. I love my son and watching him grow up is truly a blessing. Let’s me give some more details about him.

My son’s name is Jeremiah. He is 2 years old and full of life. I am not in the best situation and I know that does have an effect on how he is growing up right now.  I am thankful that we have a place to live, even if it is with family. I am working to change our situation and, as my last post stated, I am trusting the process.

My son is developmentally behind on some of his learning achievements. I know my son is extremely smart and understands a lot for his age. His motor skills are freaking amazing but he lacks in the talking department. Does anyone have any suggestions to help my son communicate with me better? Any suggestions are welcome!

I am learning to stay strong in my decisions when it comes to my child. That can be difficult when you deal with opposing views. I don’t mind the way my parents raised me, I just wanna do things differently.

I hope everyone enjoyed reading this post. Feel free to leave comments if you want to.

 

Love,

Kandice

Trust the Process

To my readers,

Here I go again. I am THE WORST. I don’t know why I’m this way. I let life get the best of me and I neglect my blog once again. I keep telling myself to focus and post more but every time I get a boost of energy, I quickly plateau later. As I have mentioned in previous posts, I struggle with consistency. I looked at my stats and I’m shocked that my last post was about 3 months ago. Although I am shocked, I’m not surprised by my actions. Even with all that goes on in my life, I have to learn to push myself to be more consistent and trust the process.

“Trust is built with consistency.”

Lincoln Chafee

I know I want to be successful in the future an I understand that there is a process involved. I feel that in order to reach my goals, I must be willing to make sacrifices. I see so many success stories and I always wondered how that person got to that point. For example, I want this blog to be successful. I had wanted to start a blog for so long but I was always afraid of what my closest family and friends who think. It got to a point where I just said “Fuck it, I’m going to start my  blog!”. I wanted to be able to express my feelings when no one would listen. It’s hard being a loner because you constantly feel like no one listens or even pays any attention to you.

“When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.”

As I continue to grow personally, I must trust the process. I know the road will be rough and it will have many bumps along the way. I will do whatever it takes to remain encouraged and continue to follow my dreams.

I encourage all my readers to continue reach your goals and always stay encouraged.

Much love

-Kandice

It’s okay to go MIA

Dear readers,

I don’t want anyone to think I’ve forgotten about the blog. Life began to get overwhelming and I really needed extra time to compose myself.

When life does get overwhelming, I tend to fall into depressive slumps that aren’t good for me. Let’s just say handling my emotions is not my strong point.

As the title says, it’s okay to go MIA. You need that time to recharge your batteries and regain focus. I have this belief that taking care of mental health is just as Important as taking care of your physical health.

I’m the next post, hopefully this week, I want to focus more on mental health.

I know this is a short post. I really want to focus back on the blog and recommit myself to a constant post schedule.

I thank the world for my readers

-Kandice Franklin

P.S. if you have any suggestions for consistency and general focus, please feel free to comment

Life update and “H.O.P.E”

“You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will live a one.”

John Lennon

Peace and Blessings to everyone and Happy Holidays!

I hate having to say this over and over but I’m sorry for the inconsistency.

I do have some updates to share.

I have finally found employment once again, even if it is a seasonal position. I do enjoy where I work and I do hope they consider me for a permanent, full-time position in the near future.

I’m also dealing with my dad’s health issues. He has a disease that affects his memory. When I get more information about the disease, I will be glad to share it.

With everything I have mentioned above, I have been super busy. I have thought about different ways to improve my blog and get better. Often times I do write potential blogs topics in my journal, then I forget to post them while it’s fresh on my brain.

For instance, on Decemeber 7, I wrote about hope and what it means to me. I wrote as much as my thoughts would allow, without over doing it. I would like to share that with you today:

December 7, 2017 “H.O.P.E”

Dictionary.com describes hope as “the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best”. At first glance, I didn’t understand the definition. The word itself can mean different things to different people.

I was trying to find different acronyms to describe hope and only one stuck with me

H.O.P.E

H appiness

O ver

P eople’s

E nvy

That acroynm is the last thing I wrote. I wanted to have multiple acroymns to share but that one just stuck with me.

I choose my happiness regardless of what people may think. I choose to live the best life I can live. I want my son to experience his best life. I want my family and friends to be blessed and have their best dreams come true.

With all that being said,  I want all of my readers to give their best efforts and achieve their greatest goals. It’s ok to be afraid of the future but taking the first step can be the start of something awesome!

Kandice

Stop being lazy (I’m talking to myself)

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”

George Herbert via success.com

Good morning readers!

Please forgive me. I keep telling myself that I want to be more consistent with my blog but I let laziness get in the way. My “life” situation continues to change and I find it difficult to adjust at times.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, outside of consistency, laziness is another concept I struggle with.  I get so caught with my personal issues, I forget to focus on things that are important to me (i.e this blog lol). I use YouTube, the internet, and television as distractions to redirect my attention away from my problems. Facing challenges are difficult and stress does build up in the process, but it is very important to maintain focus.

Let me explain how laziness affects me. At this moment, I am STILL unemployed. It has been almost 4 months since I lost my job. Although I now have all this free time, my situation has changed again. I have moved in my family and I help take care of my sick father. I want to be an asset to my family right now but my laziness (and unemployment) keep me from it.

Regardless of my current situation, I know I can prevail because I believe my situation does not determine my final destination. I believe that the most successful people have the darkest history and they never let their past dictate their future.

Have a great week and continue to follow your dreams!

Love,

Kandice