Whatever you would have your child become, strive to exhibit in your own lives and conversation-Lydia H. Sigourney
I don’t know if my parent or elders are aware of this but our world is changing. Now this is going to sound disrespectful but I don’t respect my elders. And this is going to sound more disrespectful but just because you’re older, doesn’t mean you’re wiser.
I still consider myself a new mom, so I’m learning what I like and dislike when it comes to how I raise my son. I do have a strong opinion on what habits my son takes from our family. I do have respect for most of my family, to a certain extent, but I can’t follow everything they try to force down my throat. Regardless of anyone’s opinion, I’m going to raise my son how I feel is best for the both of us. I want my son to have the best in life and I also want to show him the right tools he needs for success. In order for me to do that, I have to break generational curses set forth from my family.
When trying to break generational curses, understand that you will be met with opposition….major opposition but you have to stand firm no matter what.
The debate I’m dealing with right now is whether or not to cut my son’s hair. My family is so adamant for me to cut it just because it doesn’t look like what it’s supposed to look like…..whatever that means. They have never explained their point but they continue to shove the idea down my throat. I can see why they feel they way they do but they are also in a different financial situation than me. From a financial standpoint, trying to maintain haircuts is not something I can afford to do. They may not realize that I’m a single mother with no income. I think about my future quite a bit and I also consider finances when I no longer live in my families house. I don’t want to start getting my son ‘s cut if I can’t afford to keep maintain it.
It’s okay to take advice from people but at the end of the day, you’re still the parent. If you don’t agree with the parenting tips given to you, it’s okay totally fine not to follow it. I mainly want to teach my son to love himself because I know as he continues to grow up, he will deal with some hard stuff emotionally and I never want that negativity to come me.
Let me know what you think, I would love to hear your feedback.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so just be a real one-Sue Atkins